With the personal computer and online dating phenomenon, many people are turning to the online dating services instead of the bar scene, blind

dates, or fix-ups by friends, to find potential partners. There are several differences in these couples and the ones that hop from one partner to

another, never finding what they are looking for.

Some online dating services prescreen possible fits based on personality traits. They have even come up with an online dating service that is for the

oddball, misfit personalities that conservative people may consider too eccentric or high strung for any type of long-term relationship. The common

factor of online dating service matches is that, if BOTH people are HONEST about who they are, and their traits match up in a balanced fashion, they

will be compatible, yet have some other interests that the other person doesn’t to keep the relationship interesting.

Some people who turn to online dating services have failed in several relationships or marriage for various reasons. The question is whether they are

carrying this past baggage or resentfulness with them, thus sabotaging any relationship, whether online or in person. It does not mean that they are a

bad person; maybe they were the innocent victim so to speak. While it takes two people to form a relationship, normally one is more responsible for

the breakup than the other one.

Psychologists say that the key to happy relationships is to be happy with yourself, first and foremost, and secure enough that you remain happy and

busy with your own life, and only use a relationship to spice up your life. Many failed relationships are due to the fact that one of the individuals is

looking to the relationship or other person to make them happy, thus becoming clingy, needy, and jealous, which turns the other person off and

running for the hills. By being happy and self-confident, you will draw a similar type person to you, and any relationship will manifest what you both

bring to the table.

If one or both partners are unhappy and looking for the other one to fulfill their needs, or if they are insecure and jealous, the whole relationship will

be one of neediness, insecurity and jealousy. Usually, these problems have an underlying cause and manifest themselves when something threatens

the relationship because the person is not secure or self-confident enough to let it go.

If you are dating a man that is looking at skinny, shapely women and you are slightly overweight, you are going to be jealous and insecure because

you feel you do not fit what interests him. By feeling secure with who you are, and finding a partner that accepts who you are, you will find a great

relationship where you are both happy and confident, and compliment each other’s life.

Online dating services have been available for some time. However, only of late have some dating services started to offer access to their website for completely free. This has changed the entire profile of online dating, making many more people sign-up, and therefore increasing the chances of everyone meeting the partner of their dreams! When it comes to using online dating services, many people fail to leverage them to their full advantage. This means that while certain people will be still be able to get dates, they are decreasing the chances of creating a serious relationship by taking the wrong approach.

Finding a Free Site

Finding a free site is simple. Ask your friends and family if they have a site that they would recommend. If not, then visit a search engine such as Google or Yahoo and you will be able to find a dating site through typing in a query that matches exactly what you are looking for. You could also consider using a directory such as DMOZ or the Yahoo Directory and looking for the dating category. Remember to always ensure that the site is actually free of charge.

Make Friends First

Rather than jumping in at the deep end, and looking to create a relationship straight away, it can be best to create a friendship first. When you take this approach you decrease the chances of being rejected and remove much of the stigma that surrounds online dating. Although both you and your potential partner will release that you are interested in them, by using this technique everything can appear much more natural and less forced.

Create A Full Profile

Many people sign-up for free dating sites and fail to create a profile when they sign-up. Although this is understandable, it does no favours for you in finding the right partner. When you create a full profile it means that someone can evaluate whether you are what they are looking for much easier. They will be able to tell if they are attracted to you, whether or not you have similar interests, and if you live close enough together to make a relationship work. When you create your profile it may seem like a good idea to tell lies in order to make yourself a more attractive target for potential partners. This is something that should always be avoided as you are going to have to tell them the truth at one stage if the relationship continues to progress.

Be Yourself

Too many people sign-up for a free online dating profile, and then act much different from how they are in real life. Although this may not seem like a bad idea at first, it does mean that the chances of creating a long term relationship will be reduced. When you fail to be yourself online, it means when you meet offline they will be surprised to learn what you are really like. This is a golden rule, don’t hide behind a persona.