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Use Speed Dating To Land On Your Perfect Match

Saturday, July 26th, 2008

Speed dating is among the new advent in the world of dating. The main essence of a speed date is to save time used in finding a perfect match. There are so many wasted dinners, being stood up and unnecessary heart breaks. With Speed dating things are made a little easier since you can be able to get the love of your life in a very small time limit. Ordinary dating is expensive in terms of money, time and other forms of investments. You might spend so much of these and end up loosing the game. It is very exhaustive especially if you realize your partner was not meant for you when it is too late. Five minute dating event has come to save the situation by encouraging positive dating.

In positive dating things move on swiftly since there is no fear of rejection or misuse. What happens to many failing relationship is, two dating people move in different paces. One may want to head for marriage after sometime of dating while the other wants to go slow before saying “i do”. This lack of reading from the same script might false the partners to go different ways. Speed dating ensures that a perfect match is found where two people have the same dating agendas and share a common view about dating as well as the world at large. A speed date reveals as much about him/herself in a time span of 3-5 minutes. You might think 5 minutes is little time to find a perfect match but the setting of the speed dating event ensures that all the expectations are met.

Dating, Love and Marriage: Are You Sucking the Passion Out of Your Relationships?

Friday, November 23rd, 2007

If you are a Lover, your passion is connection, the intimacy of giving and receiving. Whether you are sharing your gifts and talents with the world at large, or you are having a one-on-one love relationship, marital relationship, friendship, a family member, or a relationship with a co-worker, you enjoy fusing your essential being with everything in life. Connecting with other people makes you feel grounded, secure, needed, valued, supported, happy, good about yourself, comforted, and loved.

Since relationship is the main focus of your life, when you’re not in a romantic relationship, you’re probably looking for one. You can teach others how to love and “do” intimacy. When the Lover is in bloom, you light up the world. Your enthusiasm, creativity, charisma, and openness make you irresistible. Your glow ignites the glow in others and helps them grow into their full potential. Lovers are wonderful people to know and love.

But as the day is followed by the night, the Lover’s glow casts a shadow. At their worst, Lovers are “energy vampires,” over-connecters who fuse with a grip that can be intensely smothering. As the Vamp, they can be desperately needy, self-centered, and depleting. In anger, they can whip up a storm and strike out with lethal words, wanting to hurt those who have hurt them. Vamps can burn out the people in their lives with drama after drama.

Vamps can be very charismatic and sexy in relationships. When they turn their attention in your direction, they can charm the pants off you. As long as the experience lasts, you’ll feel as though you are the most brilliant, fascinating creature in the universe. The trouble is, it may not last long. As soon as they’ve got you hooked, they are likely to move on to greener pastures because Vamps are attracted to the unavailable. Deep inside, they feel unworthy; therefore they don’t want to be members of any team that would have them. Lovers have a special talent for intimacy, but until they learn how to be self-nurturing and to give without expecting something in return, they often use moments of connection to feed off the energy of others. They seduce you so that you’ll validate them in the mistaken belief that this gives them an identity. Sadly, they often don’t know how beloved and wonderful they are.

If these words seem a bit harsh, just remember that the Vamp is only the unhealed aspect of the Lover. Every “Passion Signature” or, the signature style you express yourself and seek fulfillment, has light and dark qualities. We all have our share. Knowing the drawbacks to your Passion Signature can help you overcome your commitment phobia and discover your full potential.